It’s hard to know how you come across to others if you don’t ask for feedback, which requires taking a risk and feeling vulnerable. With a growth mindset, however, you can open yourself to learning through conversations with trusted peers, a mentor, or a coach.
Here are areas that merit exploring in order to expand your awareness of how you respond to situations:
- How do you handle emotions, both your own and others’?
- Do you know your “hot buttons”?
- Are you aware of your feelings as they arise?
- How well do you pick up on the feelings of others?
- How well can you read situations, climates, contexts?
- Are you able to grasp the nature of a problem and analyze key points?
- How curious are you about things you don’t know much about?
- How well do you handle your own and others’ mistakes?
- How do you assign blame?
- Are you open to hearing feedback?
- Do you play devil’s advocate, willingly examining your assumptions?
- Can you own your responsibility in a problem?
- Do you try to keep your ego in check?
- Do you encourage the success of others?
- Do you express gratitude regularly?
- Do you try to express more positive thoughts than negative ones?
- Are you neither too harsh nor too lax with yourself?
- Do you try to suspend judgment of other people, places, and things?
Self-awareness requires sensitivity to both inner and outer realities, knowing full well you can never perceive things without your own biases and filters. By keeping a growth mindset, you can ask the questions needed to listen and learn.