As a leader, how do you practice self-kindness?
When it comes to a culture of kindness, leaders set the course. Just like those they lead, they are under extraordinary pressure to do more with less. This often impacts their own well-being and tolerance levels. That’s why self-care is so important today. Leaders must stay physically and mentally healthy.
Of course, every person is different, but proper self-kindness includes regular exercise, eating well, and getting enough rest. It’s also essential to develop supportive relationships and outside interests.
Cultivate Self-Kindness
When this topic comes up in my coaching sessions, we discuss different strategies to foster self-care and kindness. First, we need to recognize the hard stuff. Here are two important questions to consider:
- In what ways has life become more challenging?
- What is the current state of your social ties?
I recommend that you give both of these questions serious consideration, and write out your answers.
Then, work to cultivate greater feelings of kindness. Think of times when you felt a strong connection with someone—a meaningful conversation; a shared success or loss—and journal about the experience. This exercise will reinforce your sense of connection, and satisfy that human need to belong.
Next, recognize ways life has gotten a bit better. Have you been able to spend more time with family? Have you explored or developed different interests? What about greater understanding of different perspectives, beliefs, or opinions?
Reinforce your self-worth. Honor who you are, and act with authenticity. Exercise your power to choose, especially when it comes to attitude.
Finally, tackle the hard stuff. Prioritize ways you can strengthen your social ties.
For example, if your exercise includes walking outside, consider walking with a partner if you don’t already. If you already engage in this activity, extend your time by five minutes, slow your speed, and allow time to stop and notice. Take a photo, make a mental note, or even write down your thoughts and feelings.
According to researcher and psychologist Dacher Keltner, our health derives from being part of a strong community. Our happiness derives from enjoying things with other people. Has this been your experience?
Practice Self-Kindness
Leaders who practice self-kindness accept reality with sympathy, achieve emotional equanimity, and build greater resilience. They reinforce their self-worth, and extend kindness to others.
What do you think? How do you cultivate self-kindness? I’d love to hear from you. I can be reached here, on LinkedIn, or give me a call: 561-582-6060.
